It has been a few weeks into the enhanced community quarantine here in the Philippines. I have not been earning any money for two weeks now. And I’m totally out of antidepressants.
Before this turns into a ranting complain-o-rama, I’m going to list all the things that make me lucky – disgustingly lucky:
1. I am a bi-lingual, middle class, BPO-worker living in a small cozy studio condo with no kids.
2. My sweet, wonderful, and supportive husband is working full-time at home.
3. There is a cute little pop-up meat and vegetable market right next door.
4. My next-door neighbor is a semi-retired but super sharp nurse.
5. Most of my family and friends are keeping me afloat online with communication, love, and laughter.
6. My town has one of the best local governments in the land.
For all these and more, I am truly grateful. So why so serious? This is a confession of my privilege but also of my vulnerability and self-loathing.
I have set my mind to be productive and creative throughout this quarantine period. I was planning to:
• keep working on my backlog projects so I can be up to speed if and when we report back to work
• paint cards for the sick and for the frontliners
• write the chronicles of our videochat roleplaying game (Hi, Sunday Gamers!)
• exercise
• design more houses in Sims 4
• donate, give back
And I have done nothing. My energy is so depleted though I have all the time in the world to rest.
I feel guilty of not being able to make or eat dinner although I truly enjoy cooking. Mornings are better since I have my appetite and I do a bit of gardening from my window. I make great lunch food so I make big batches.
I sleep too much. Little things make me cry spontaneously. Like the word frontliner.
I was diagnosed with depression about a year ago. I am a classic case of not handling it well. I have probably had it longer than I care to discuss but I have been coping… badly. I do my insanely creative and awesome job badly. I haven’t been the best of friends to people who have literally saved me.
I rarely go to therapy because it’s expensive. My meds have tapered down to a fluoxetine pill every other day for about six months now. Since the quarantine, I am back to taking one every day. I haven’t told my doc yet because I haven’t seen her since October.
My amazing husband has the quarantine pass so he can get my meds today. I hope the drugstore is ok with my prescription, which is a few months old.
Also, he has purchased extra gallons of alcohol to give to family. He has given 4 extra gallons to my favorite organization, the Shiphrah Birthing Home and Lying-in Clinic in Taytay. Today he will be giving trays of eggs to my mom and dad. Told you guys, amazing.
He has been constantly reminding me that it’s ok. That it’s gonna be ok. I have a firm belief that things are gonna be ok, despite the third-world style emergency response. I have firm hope that we will come out of this as better people.
What I’m having trouble believing in is if I, as a person, am OK. If I am good. If I am brave. If I am kind. If I am tolerable. If I’m doing enough. I’m staying put. It’s the least I can do.
Talking about my brain is not easy but I want you to know that if you have been feeling this way, you’re not alone. I hope this helps.
For free mental health counseling
https://news.abs-cbn.com/life/04/06/20/la-salle-offers-free-online-counseling-service
To donate to the midwives of Taytay, Rizal
http://www.helpintl.org/shiphrah-birthing-home.html